This one’s for the ladies. How many of you have ever been in this situation? I’m willing to bet almost everyone has….
It’s the middle of the workday and you glance at the calendar. You notice it’s the 15th of the month, around the date that you should have your period. You don’t have your period. You suddenly stop whatever you’re doing, pull out your phone (or another type of calendar) and start counting the days from when you think you last had your little monthly buddy. Upon doing so, you realize you were due yesterday. You rush to the bathroom and inspect your underwear and/or toilet paper for the slightest sign that it may be on its way. Nothing is there. Every single hour you find yourself returning to the restroom to check, each time cussing out loud because there isn’t a thing to be found. You can no longer focus on your work because thoughts of “We were careful, right?” or “I only had sex once this past month, I can’t possibly be pregnant” occupy your brain. You get home from work, probably re-count the days on the calendar to be double sure and continue to freak out because suddenly you notice pregnancy commercials and babies all over your favorite websites and television shows.. like it’s a fucking sign or something. After a sleepless night, you wake up with a slight cramp. You scramble out of bed (who cares if it’s 5am) and find that your period has arrived. You are the happiest woman in the world and are about to start skipping around the house screaming “Life is good!” The sense of relief is overwhelming. You’re so excited, you invite your friends for drinks that night because you’re so happy you feel like partying…just because you’re bleeding.
I’ve experienced the above story countless times. Most of us have. As a sexually active single woman for about half my life span, my reproductive matters are important to me. At this point in my life, I have no desire to have kids, nor have I ever. This is because I’m not married or able to financially support or raise a child on my own. Although I’ve had a few scares, I’ve been fortunate to never deal with an unintended pregnancy. I’ve been extremely lucky since I haven’t always been as careful as I should’ve been.
No matter how careful you may be, if you are having sex, you still run the risk of becoming pregnant. Condoms break and birth control can fail. As a single woman, I like to know I have options in these occasions. About six months ago, a condom broke and I was able to run to CVS the next day and obtain the morning after pill. Since I’m now in a relationship, I’m back on the pill so I’m able to enjoy sex wherever, whenever without much risk of becoming preggo. These options have greatly improved my quality of life.
I’m also thankful for my option to choose an abortion if I became pregnant by some crazy chance. I’m fortunate to have never had to make that choice. However, it’s a relief to know I have control over my future and my body.
I’m deeply alarmed by the anti-choice sentiment that has overtaken politics all over the country lately. The anti-women rhetoric is troubling and I’m shocked we have reverted to this in our modern and supposedly educated society. Women’s lives and health are being used as pawns in the political arena so men can advance their careers in office. Women’s bodies have become some kind of scapegoat used to cover up the real issues that no one knows how to deal with (aka- the economy, jobs). It sickens me. I’ve always followed reproductive issues closely and I never thought I’d see it come to this. These candidates speak of banning birth control – and they aren’t laughed right out of the race. Women’s reproductive rights have been slowly hacked away so that many hardly bat an eye when men speak of banning birth control. What has happened?
A woman’s right to choose is a cause that I’ve always championed. With so many degrading anti-choice bills making their way through legislation, I figure I’ll take some time to discuss what is happening in my home state, along with others.
It’s easy to get caught up in the joys and humorous horrors of dating and sexual encounters. It’s easy to ignore the possible complications relationships (whether you are single or married) can bring. I almost started a separate pro-choice blog, but don’t have the time for two blogs. However, I feel that even though it’s more of a serious topic, a not-so-feel good article about a woman’s right to her sexual freedom and a dating article still kind of go hand in hand. So… you lucky readers will be treated to random articles focusing on women’s reproductive health. I will tag them accordingly so if it bores you, you know when to skip! Sorry, I want to write and this is a topic that’s been weighing on my mind lately.
On a side note, this is probably in part because I feel I’ve become dull due to my relationship with Sam. I lack funny date stories to tell. Sam has become a drain on my writing capabilities.