(Origninally written on Sept. 9, 2011. Pulled from my Tumblr blog)
You can’t quite call it dumped because we were never really an item. However, I was broken up with today by Bad-Sex-Bobby. Why? Because I’m an atheist… and he “just can’t deal with someone whose views are that extreme.” Okay, I don’t believe in God, but he acted like I was some sort of Satanist.
Yes, I am an atheist. I have been since as far back as I can remember. I was raised Catholic and attended Catholic grade school until I was 11. However, I have been an atheist since at least 2nd grade when we did that whole creepy confession thing where you had to sit in a room alone with a priest. No funny business, but I just remember thinking how ridiculous it was. Religion never resonated with me. I couldn’t buy what they were selling and probably never will.
I’ve dated people who are somewhat religious, and although I will never attend church with them, I respect their beliefs and have never attacked them or insisted that their ideals were totally wrong. As long as they respect my views, I respect theirs.
My views on religion came out when Bad-Sex-Bobby said he didn’t believe in evolution. We were watching that YouTube video about the monkeys seeing the sun for the first time. We had what I felt was a civil discussion, and then once we got home we engaged in another round of not-so-hot sex. In the morning he was ready for another round. Once again, I said “no.”
Today, a few short days later, he informs me that he just doesn’t see a future with an atheist. Besides, his “parents would never approve.”
My response – “It’s kind of tacky that you proceeded to want to sleep with me after knowing all along that this was a deal breaker. If it was that important, shouldn’t you have discussed it from the start?”
Bobby’s response – “I didn’t want to ask you because it was too personal.”
Me – “And sex isn’t personal?”
Bobby – “It’s just sex. Sex isn’t that big of a deal to me.”
I wasn’t all that smitten by Bad-Sex-Bobby to begin with. However, I can’t help but be angry at the fact that I feel taken advantage of and almost lied to. Sometimes sex isn’t that big of a deal, but sex with him was rotten. I got nothing out of it except a $50 dollar bill for the god damn morning after pill because the condom broke. It broke before he came, but I didn’t want to take any chances with pre-ejaculate or whatever… Better safe than sorry. (I went off the pill earlier this year because I rarely had sex).
Relationships are about being able to overlook things and work through them. I was willing to work through the horrifically disappointing sex. Yet, he was not able to accept that my beliefs were different than his. Good people are good people regardless of religious affiliation. He’s not open-minded enough to see that.
Few more deets about Bad-Sex-Bobby just because I need to vent. His a tad smaller than average penis was unattractive… it was like he was only partially circumcised. There was lots of extra skin. Lots. He badly needed to shave or at least trim down there. Talk about a damn jungle! He had hair covering every inch of his body besides his head where it was thinning. His humping reminded me of a horny hound dog going to town on someone’s leg. Sex him was like banging a monkey. Still, he says evolution is false….